As all is one (meaning completely relativistic) “things” are illusions. This also means agents are an illusion and that all action originates from the whole. Yet, we firmly hold on to the illusion that we ourselves are things, agents from which action originates. If we did not, how could we ever hand out blame?
Once you truly realize who you are, you will see that what you do is what is happening to you and what is happening to you is what you do and that blame has no meaning; that the flow of action and change is perfect, that it is the universe being of itself so.